2 Corinthians 6:14-15(NKJV)
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
Belief systems play a major part in marriage in everything that we do. They determine how we establish our homes, raise our children, and live everyday life. I would like to take this a step forward and even say that not only is the believer and unbeliever unequally yoked, but how you believe is equally important. If you believe in the gifts of the spirit with miracles, signs and wonders and your spouse believes in salvation but must go to the priest/bishop to hear from God, than you are still unequally yoked.
3 Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
I’m not saying that God can’t do a work in our marriages and put us on the same page. Nothing is too hard for our God. But if we go into a marriage knowing that we do not believe the same, than we are frustrating our purpose and the call of God on our lives. There is nothing wrong with being a cat, but a cat is not a skunk. Even if the cat pretends and puts a stripe on its back, when the rain hits its true identity will show. People respond to situations based on their beliefs. An ox that is equally yoked for its work has to be the same height and size or else it will frustrate both of them causing pain to both and little work to be done. If an ox is rightly paired then the work can be done efficiently and effectively. There is nothing wrong with one compared to the other because each one plays its part, but if not equally matched than its purpose becomes frustrated. My husband does not have the same gifts and calling that I have or vice versa, but we believe in the same things and respect each other’s identity. If I constantly talked about what I was hearing the Lord say and what I was seeing in the Spirit, but my husband didn’t believe this to be true and he only ignored those things because he was attracted to me, eventually he would think that I am crazy and begin to treat me accordingly. This might stifle my identity and cause me to shut down ultimately destroying my purpose. (Thank God my husband gets me!) We all desire to love and be loved. God wants to give us our desires when we delight ourselves in Him first. Don’t settle for less than God’s best for Your purpose to satisfy your flesh. God has someone special just for you. That person will not only be attracted to you physically and spiritually, but they will even enhance your purpose with understanding, encouragement and comfort. For those who are already frustrated in your call because you are unequally yoked, it is not too late. Pray! Live your life as God created you to be. Don’t let frustration turn you into someone that you aren’t. Keep God’s plan first and do all things in love. Be gentle and kind and pray for strategy to accomplish what God has purposed for you. Pray that your spouse achieves their true identity in Christ and sees you through the eyes of Jesus. Thank God that He honors marriage and that He desires to do a great work through your union.
Ephesians 1:16-19 (NKJV)
16 do not cease to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers:17 that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him, 18 the eyes of your understanding[a] being enlightened; that you may know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints,19 and what is the exceeding greatness of His power toward us who believe, according to the working of His mighty power
Jesus is Lord! He is Lord over our lives and Lord over our marriages. He is our savior and deliverer. He is a God of restoration and a redeemer of time. It is never too late. Trust and believe in Him and you won’t be put to shame!
Father we thank You for Your Word that is faithful to guide us in all things. We submit our marriages to you and believe that your purpose will be made complete through our union. Forgive us for forsaking our call to satisfy our flesh. Forgive us for frustrating our purpose and shutting down instead of praying and moving forward with love and gentleness. Show us how to communicate our beliefs and gain understanding of one another’s purpose. Restore our passion and redeem the time. Give us wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him. Let the eyes of our understanding be enlightened that we may know the Hope of Your calling. Keep our hearts and minds in Your perfect peace and let us know Your perfect love. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!