My first marriage was a disaster on so many levels. Neither of us were living for Christ so we didn’t have the answers to the problems we were having. Every time we would gather with friends or family it ended up in a disaster of hurt and anger. Whether it was playing cards, scrabble, or just hanging out, the fun never lasted for long. My ex-husband always made me the butt of the joke. He would say hurtful things about me disguised as a joke in order to get a laugh. I would always come back with a clever hurtful “joke” that would cut right into his heart. We would go back and forth. I would never let him one up me. My words were weapons of war. He would get so angry sometimes resulting in cards or scrabble pieces everywhere. I would always respond with “You can dish it, but you can’t take it.” As long as I won the battle, I felt like he didn’t shame me with his words no matter how hurtful they were. Even though he was always the one to start this foolishness, all he could see was me disrespecting him in front of his friends and family. Although this is dysfunctional and nobody deserves to sit and receive verbal abuse, my response fueled the fire instead of putting it out. Ultimately there were many battles of different kinds, but everyone lost with divorce. Thank You Jesus for salvation, redemption, restoration, grace, mercy, and forgiveness!
Proverbs 12:4
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.
We should not be addressing our issues in front of others. When we disrespect our husband, we are breaking him down and making him weak. Our job as a wife is to be excellent. We should be treating our husband as lord of our home. This is such a humbling truth. This doesn’t take away from our importance as wife and mother. We are each equally important, but we are to be the crown of our husband. Our actions and words should make him feel like a king and activate a kingly authority that will allow him to function in his purpose according to the will of God. When he operates as king, he will treat us like a queen. When a situation of disagreement occurs, we should address him privately never to cause him shame by exposing him in front of others.
Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Our words are powerful weapons of honor or destruction. They produce the fruit of life and wellness or bring rotten fruit that will destroy and bring death. I am not yet perfect in this, but I have learned to be slow to speak and say things in love. I have also learned to be quick to repent and apologize in my wrong doings. There is power in humility!
Father, we thank You for our marriage. Forgive us for not always being a crown to our husband by acting in excellence. Help us be the very best we can be. Make us aware when we are placing shame instead of honor. Humble our hearts to allow our husbands be lord of our homes so they may be the kings that you have called them to be. Keep our tongues from speaking death to our marriage and give us words of life. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
Proverbs 12:4
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.
We should not be addressing our issues in front of others. When we disrespect our husband, we are breaking him down and making him weak. Our job as a wife is to be excellent. We should be treating our husband as lord of our home. This is such a humbling truth. This doesn’t take away from our importance as wife and mother. We are each equally important, but we are to be the crown of our husband. Our actions and words should make him feel like a king and activate a kingly authority that will allow him to function in his purpose according to the will of God. When he operates as king, he will treat us like a queen. When a situation of disagreement occurs, we should address him privately never to cause him shame by exposing him in front of others.
Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Our words are powerful weapons of honor or destruction. They produce the fruit of life and wellness or bring rotten fruit that will destroy and bring death. I am not yet perfect in this, but I have learned to be slow to speak and say things in love. I have also learned to be quick to repent and apologize in my wrong doings. There is power in humility!
Father, we thank You for our marriage. Forgive us for not always being a crown to our husband by acting in excellence. Help us be the very best we can be. Make us aware when we are placing shame instead of honor. Humble our hearts to allow our husbands be lord of our homes so they may be the kings that you have called them to be. Keep our tongues from speaking death to our marriage and give us words of life. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
RSS Feed