Sometimes it is so easy to get lost in a season of surviving that we forget to thrive. God doesn’t want our marriages to be just convenient. He doesn’t just want it to be a team raising the children. He never intended it to be just a live in friendship. Although all these things are good, it should be so much more than that. We become one flesh. I think we spend so much time trying not to lose ourselves that we fight the process of God joining us together. We all have purpose created on the inside of us. This purpose is designed strategically and precisely to fulfill the perfect will of God for our lives individually and collectively as husband and wife. Sometimes we hit dry places when we get caught up in our situations and circumstances that we forget to feed our purpose or that of our spouse. We need to be aware when we have come to a dry place so we may feed the passion inside. We also need to feed the purpose of our spouse. We hold resurrection power to bring back to life what has gone dormant inside. It’s important to remember the passion inside and recognize when it fizzles out. My husband is so hard working and loves what he does. He is a good provider and never complains about having to take care of us. Yesterday I asked him if money wasn’t an issue would he still want to stay in his field and further his education, or would he choose to do something else. He shared with me the same desires that he shared before we got married. His desires never changed but his circumstances did. God placed those things in his heart for a reason. It is part of his assignment to fulfill God’s will for His life. Because he is so good at what he does, I thought maybe that his desire changed, but I now believe that God just graced him in this season to enjoy what he is doing to relieve the frustration of hard work. We can’t forget those things that God first spoke to us. We need to feed purpose by sowing seeds of prayer, encouragement, and declaration. We need to invest seeds financially and build on what God multiplies. God gives seed to the sower. Whatever we sow, we will reap and receive more seed to give. This principle is absolute. You want more love than sow love. You want more friends than show yourself friendly. You want your spouse to pay more attention to you, than pay more attention to him. The enemy has us do the exact opposite. He would have us become bitter and distance ourselves, because the devil knows that if we sow coldness and rejection we will reap that as well. I encourage you today to not only revisit your own passion and purpose, but to also visit that of your spouse. Sow words of life back into it and watch God reignite the passion and fire that was once there. The areas of life that seem lacking or poor (not just financially) will become wealthy!
2 Corinthians 9:6-15
The Cheerful Giver
6 But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. 7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. 8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work. 9 As it is written:
“He has dispersed abroad,
He has given to the poor;
His righteousness endures forever.”[b]
10 Now may[c] He who supplies seed to the sower, and bread for food, supply and multiply the seed you have sown and increase the fruits of your righteousness, 11 while you are enriched in everything for all liberality, which causes thanksgiving through us to God. 12 For the administration of this service not only supplies the needs of the saints, but also is abounding through many thanksgivings to God, 13 while, through the proof of this ministry, they glorify God for the obedience of your confession to the gospel of Christ, and for your liberal sharing with them and all men, 14 and by their prayer for you, who long for you because of the exceeding grace of God in you. 15 Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!
Father we thank You for the desires that You have planted on the inside of us. Forgive us for forgetting to feed our purpose and ignore the purpose of our spouse. Help us to sow seeds into each other’s life that will bring multiplication and a tree of life that will always bear fruit. We want to be who You created us to be individually and as one. Help us understand this and bring balance where we are off. Remind us to keep the passion alive for our purpose and for our marriage. It is all for Your glory. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!