Reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc. of a person or thing; confidence
For starters, we must stop viewing God in comparison to our earthly parents. Just the other day I was talking to someone and they were justifying their behavior because their dad always did it. They see their dad as a god and not as a man that is flawed. If we measure ourselves against the standard of man than we could never be trusted! We have to understand who God really is. He is our everything. He is our savior, deliverer, healer, protector, provider, friend and more! He is our Daddy. When we put our trust in Him we won’t be put to shame. We can always rely on God’s integrity, strength, ability, and surety. We can put full confidence in Him. Once we do this He will show us how to be like Him and to also see the same qualities in others. This is why it is important to be equally yoked. We want to spend our lives with someone who measure themselves against the Word of God and let God grow them. We have to pray about everything!
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
You can put your trust in someone who trusts the Lord because they will be seeking God’s understanding and their paths will be directed by Him. This doesn’t mean that they will never hurt you. Unfortunately, we still live with this flesh that we fight daily, but it does mean that when things go wrong they will be repentant/forgiving and want resolution not conflict/revenge. We have to treat each situation new. We can’t judge outcomes based on our past, their past, or even what we imagine by tormented thoughts that the devil has given to cause division. When God forgave us, he blotted out our sin with the blood of Jesus. God puts it in the depths of the sea. He forgets it and removes it far from us.
Psalm 103:12New King James Version (NKJV)
12 As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.
Micah 7:19New King James Version (NKJV)
19 He will again have compassion on us,
And will subdue our iniquities.
You will cast all our[a] sins
Into the depths of the sea.
As hard as this might be, it is our responsibility to forgive and let go when our spouse repents. We can’t hold on to their mistakes to throw them in their face every time the opportunity presents itself. When we do this we hold them in bondage and are using manipulation to control them instead of letting God deal with their hearts.
8 I will hear what God the Lord will speak,
For He will speak peace
To His people and to His saints;
But let them not turn back to folly.
9 Surely His salvation is near to those who fear Him,
That glory may dwell in our land.
10 Mercy and truth have met together;
Righteousness and peace have kissed.
11 Truth shall spring out of the earth,
And righteousness shall look down from heaven.
12 Yes, the Lord will give what is good;
And our land will yield its increase.
13 Righteousness will go before Him,
And shall make His footsteps our pathway.
When God forgives us, we forgive each other, and we don’t return to our foolishness, this is what is released in our homes. God’s glory will dwell with us. His mercy, truth, righteousness, peace, goodness, and prosperity will fill our marriage. When we trust God we know that he honors our marriage and wants it to succeed. We have to give it completely to Him and let Him deliver us from any hurt that keeps us from trusting one another. We must be honest with ourselves and honest with one another working together to build a foundation of trust that is built on the truth of God’s Word and the fullness of the cross of Jesus Christ. When we each put our trust in God, than we can also put our trust in each other.
Father we thank You that when we put our trust in You than You will direct our paths. Thank You for our marriage and forgive us for holding on to things from the past that are keeping us from a healthy marriage. Help us to be trustworthy by mirroring Your integrity, strength, ability, and surety. Help us be people that our spouse can put their confidence in. Deliver us and our spouse from any sin that would separate our trust.We choose to forgive and move forward with prayer trusting You to release Your glory in our marriage. Our marriage belongs to You. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen!