Today is a special day in my household. Today is my Husband’s birthday. So as a sit here thinking about how to honor and encourage him, I also began to think about what makes him special and why God blessed me with him. In marriage, sometimes we get so caught up in our day to day schedules, that we forget that we were joined together to be a blessing to each other. When God created Eve for Adam, He said it wasn’t good for man to be alone. He created us from man to be a help, but how many times do we actually hinder what God wants to do instead? When we are joined with our spouse, we become one flesh. We are designed to operate in sync with one another. Just as the body has many functions, so do each of us in marriage. I can’t be the head if my husband is the head or we will create a two headed monster in our home. If he is the head then I can be the heart. This actually makes sense to me since our brains make decisions from facts and learned knowledge and our hearts are moved by compassion and emotion. Using just one of these functions will cause an unbalanced decision. We were made to work together. We have two eyes to see from different perspectives, two ears to hear the voice of God, and two hands and arms to do different tasks. We also have two legs to walk, but even though they are separate, they must walk together. It is impossible for one to go one way and the other to go another. We have different functions but must work together, when we don’t it’s like cutting a piece of our bodies off. Would you cut your own arm off so it can do its own thing? A lot of times we do this unknowingly in our marriage. We hurt because we have damaged our bodies (marriage) by doing our own thing. Often it is the very thing that attracted us to them that is the thing that will also irritate us. My husband is very determined, focused, and strong like an ox. When he starts something, he will finish it to the end in faithfulness and loyalty without being moved. This is mostly a good trait, but in times when I want him to see a different viewpoint, it is hard to get him to look. I am very systematic and organized so in times when he comes to do things his way; I frustrate him with my system. Marriage is about learning each other and how to be in sync with each other. Each leg should be walking separately but in sync with one another to get to the same destination at a steady even pace. One can’t run and the other walk or we will fall. Knowing our part is the start. This comes by prayer and trial and error. We won’t always get it right, but we must learn from our mistakes and most importantly, work together!
Genesis 2:23-24 (NKJV)
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Father we thank You for marriage. Thank You for giving us help to walk the journey through life. Forgive us for not always placing honor on the gift of marriage. Teach us how to walk in agreement and in sync with one another. Let our marriages glorify You and be an example of the church as You intended. Give us strength to endure times of frustration and solutions to repair the wounds that we have created. You are Lord over our marriage and we surrender it to You. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!
Genesis 2:23-24 (NKJV)
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Father we thank You for marriage. Thank You for giving us help to walk the journey through life. Forgive us for not always placing honor on the gift of marriage. Teach us how to walk in agreement and in sync with one another. Let our marriages glorify You and be an example of the church as You intended. Give us strength to endure times of frustration and solutions to repair the wounds that we have created. You are Lord over our marriage and we surrender it to You. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!