Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NKJV)
9 Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
We are there to help our spouse up when they are down and to show them warmth so they know they are not alone. They enemy wants to take over, but when we stand in agreement with the power of God through the Holy Spirit, we won’t be easily broken.
Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)
20 He who walks with wise men will be wise,
But the companion of fools will be destroyed.
We must always seek wisdom when dealing with one another. God wants us to walk in wisdom to help each other grow wiser. When we act out of our foolish flesh we destroy our spouse instead of building them up. This will cause horrible decisions to be made with consequences to match.
Proverbs 10:9 (NKJV)
9 He who walks with integrity walks securely,
But he who perverts his ways will become known.
We must be doing what is right, even when we think nobody is watching. Your family sees more than you think. Even what they don’t see, God sees and will expose the truth. This is why most spouses “know” that something is wrong even before there is evidence. I’m not talking about unreasonable paranoia conjured up from past hurtful experiences. I’m referring to those walking in the Spirit and being in tune when something is off. This is why praying together and for one another is so important. It keeps us accountable to God and to each other. Even when we do make mistakes, it will be quicker and easier to resolve because our hearts will be pierced by the conviction of the Holy Spirit bringing us to repentance and seeking forgiveness. Forgiveness will become easier because we are in tune with the will of God for our marriage.
Romans 12 (NKJV)
12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
The world tells us that our bodies are our own and that we have a choice. The world would say do whatever pleases us; we are only accountable to our self. The world has redefined marriage, perverted the roles as spouses and parents, and usurped the authority we have been given by God. We have to intentionally take it back! We can’t conform to the world, but know God’s will by studying His word. We belong to God first, then to our spouse. We are not our own!
1 Corinthians 6:19 (NKJV)
19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who isin you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?
1 Corinthians 7:4(NKJV)
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
This is God’s will for our lives in marriage. He wants us to be as one, considering each other in everything that we do. He wants us to make decisions together, be gentle with one another, and choosing to love in everything we do and say. This is an ongoing process of prayer, faith, obedience, mercy, forgiveness, trust, faithfulness, integrity, and humility. He wants us to represent Him and be examples of His Kingdom.
Father, we thank you for Your perfect will. We thank You that You have a plan and purpose for our marriage. Forgive us for not always being wise to the destruction of our spouse. Forgive us for thinking that we are our own. Help us walk in integrity. Teach us how to help our spouse up when they fall and keep Jesus as the third strand so that we are not easily broken. We want to be accountable to You and to each other. Help us stay humble and choose to love. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!