Psalm 4:4 Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah
I know first-hand that this is not easy. My mouth can easily get the best of me when I’m angry. I have also been very good at slamming cabinets and doors! We must realize when we are wrong, admit it, and ask for forgiveness. We must work on being still and seeking God how to handle our stresses. Gentleness is also a fruit of the spirit. It is easy when everything around us is good, but takes much effort when we are mad. That’s when self-control has to kick back in!
1 Peter 3 New King James Version (NKJV)
Submission to Husbands
3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
We all want happy marriages, but we need to each work on our part. The husband has to continually seek God to understand his wife. They must place honor on us. Know that we are weaker, and that our inheritance is together. When they don’t do these things, their prayers will be hindered! Wow, that is surely an important reason to honor your wife! Our husband’s prayers need to be heard.
A Word to Husbands
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
We both have important jobs in making our marriages work. When we realize what each other’s gifts and abilities are, it makes it much easier to run our household’s effectively. Know your role and operate in what you do best. Honor your spouse for their ability and do your own part like you are doing it for the Lord. Every household is different. We all have different gifts. Don’t model your house after your neighbor’s, but understand what God has for yours.
Father, we thank You for giving us the fruit we need to become the people You desire us to be. Help us live in constant awareness of our actions, so that we can use our gentleness and self-control. Let honor and understanding be our portion. Show us our strengths and the strengths of our spouse. Help us run our households with the abilities that you have given us instead of comparing our homes to others. Help our covenant be strong in your word, seeking You first with disagreements. We thank You that You always know what’s best and Your merciful towards us when we get it wrong. Forgive us for behaving badly, and help us forgive our spouses when they wrong us. Our marriage is a ministry and a covenant that is everlasting and will not be easily broken because You are in the midst. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!