4 An excellent[a] wife is the crown of her husband,
But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.
We honor our husband by being their crown. This is a result of how we respect him. When we expose them and embarrass them we are causing bitterness to rot their bones. How we treat them publically will determine how they show their love toward us.
Ephesians 5:33New King James Version (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Our respect for him and his love for us work together. If you are feeling unloved, check the respect level that you have been showing and ask God to calibrate your hearts to work together.
1 Corinthians 11:3New King James Version (NKJV)
3 But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
Our husbands are the head of our house if they are following Christ. Although we are to submit to one another, we should also respect their leadership. If we don’t let them lead, then we are taking away their masculinity. This is part of the problem with families today. Men need to know that their role is respected. As a true leader, they will always consult their wife, but we need to honor them and let them take charge.
1 Peter 3:7
[ A Word to Husbands ] Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
If they are to honor us as the weaker vessel, then this means that we respect that they are the stronger vessel. Men want to feel strong. We have to stop being so stubborn, trying to prove that we can do things without them. They want to know that we need them and that we honor them as protector of our homes.
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
We honor our husbands with our intimacy. God created sex for marriage. If we withhold it from them for manipulation, then we are practicing witchcraft. Although there should always be agreement, if we constantly reject them then we open up a door for the enemy to come in and tempt them (1 Corinthians 7:5).
Proverbs 21:19New King James Version (NKJV)
19 Better to dwell in the wilderness,
Than with a contentious and angry woman.
We honor them with our attitudes. If we are always angry, then we drive them away. If he is spending more time away than with you then check to see how your attitude has been towards him.
1 Timothy 5:8New King James Version (NKJV)
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
We should honor their work. If your husband is providing for your home, he is worthy of honor. There are a lot of husbands/dads who don’t. I thank God that mine works so hard!
Titus 2:3-5New King James Version (NKJV)
3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
We honor our husband by teaching our children good things. They learn how to honor and respect from us and we must make it a priority in our homes. We are training them how to be productive adults. If we don’t train them naturally and spiritually they will be immature and unproductive.
1 Corinthians 12:25-27New King James Version (NKJV)
25 that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another. 26 And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.
27 Now you are the body of Christ, and members individually.
When we withhold honor, suffering takes place in the entire household. When we place honor where it’s due, then we all can rejoice. This makes an atmosphere of unity, peace, and joy in the home. We all want to be respected.
Isaiah 61:7New King James Version (NKJV)
7 Instead of your shame you shall have double honor,
And instead of confusion they shall rejoice in their portion.
Therefore in their land they shall possess double;
Everlasting joy shall be theirs.
So today I declare double honor on all the husbands/dads who are making it happen for their family. May God increase your portion to double naturally and spiritually. May everlasting joy be yours!
Father, we thank You for our husbands. Forgive us for not honoring him in the way that you desire according to Your Word. Convict us of the areas that we need to work on and deliver us from any pride that would keep us from doing what is right. We want to be an excellent wife that our husband wears as a crown. We want to rejoice in honor placed on our husband and give him the respect that he needs to affirm his manhood. Let our honor be a gift of everlasting joy to him. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!