I’m not talking about material things (although sometimes it’s nice to have something to yourself), but I’m talking about things in our soulish realm. Sharing our thoughts, feelings, desires, hurts, disappointments, fears, and dreams, can put us at a place of vulnerability that makes us feel uncomfortable. I’m no expert at marriage. I make mistakes every day and am learning as I go. One thing that I do know is that if we are not willing to share “everything” then there will be some type of confusion to pop up later. The quicker we express ourselves the better. Our spouse can’t be our help if they don’t know what is wrong. Many frustrations can be avoided with proper communication.
Just because we both love God doesn’t mean that we don’t go through times of pain, heaviness, or even anger. We have to recognize the signals when we see a shift in the way our spouse is responding and immediately step in as an edifier. This is not always easy, especially when their attitude is altered, but God wants us to get over ourselves and come in times of weakness to bear our spouses burdens. We have to be quick to pray and speak life to the situation. We must give them hope instead of adding fuel to a destructive fire. When we pray, God will release His Word, His will, His mind and release His comfort and peace over the situation. This will allow us to come into agreement and as one release glory to the Father.
Romans 15:1-6 (NKJV)
Bearing Others’ Burdens
15 We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves. 2 Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, leading to edification. 3 For even Christ did not please Himself; but as it is written, “The reproaches of those who reproached You fell on Me.”[a] 4 For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that we through the patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope. 5 Now may the God of patience and comfort grant you to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus, 6 that you may with one mind and one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Today I encourage you to endure times of weakness. Pray without ceasing over your marriage and listen for what God is saying. Watch as God quickly moves in your hearts towards one another to give Him glory! God loves both of you and wants to work it all out for your good.
Father, we thank You for giving us a lifetime helper in our spouse. Forgive us for keeping things to ourselves and not being an edifier when they needed it most. We want to have one mind, bearing each other’s burdens, and giving You glory. Let The Holy Spirit show us when things are off and tell us what to pray and speak over our spouse. We want our marriage to honor You in all that we do. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!