Servanthood is one of the qualities that Jesus came in the flesh to show us. Although He is King, He humbled Himself to serve. Jesus didn’t dangle His authority over His people. They obeyed Him because He was humble and He led by example. In our marriages it is important that we remember to serve one another in loving kindness. Our husbands can be the great kings of our homes (if we let them), when they know how to serve the King of kings. In this day and age of independent woman and more rights and freedom in the world and in the church, we have somehow become hesitant to serve in our homes with the fear of losing some type of control and authority. This is a lie from the enemy. Jesus never lost control or authority by serving. He won the hearts of the lost with His humility. So even if you are the only one who is serving Jesus, the very act of serving your spouse will soften their heart and draw them to the Lord with your gentle spirit. When I first started dating my Husband, I had been a single mom for a long period of time. I was accustomed to doing things by myself, a certain way, and in my timing. I was the epitome of an independent woman. This bothered my husband a lot. He was very chivalrous. He opened doors, helped me put on my coat, carried my bags, and all of these customs that I wasn’t used to. When I would get out the car without him coming to open the door, he would get mad. He is also like this in the church. He serves in many capacities, often in areas that don’t get seen or recognized. Although, these are all qualities that are very appealing in a husband, it was very hard to not do things for myself. I had no problem giving, but had a hard time receiving. This made me also wonder was I doing this when it came to the things of God as well. We can find ourselves so busy asking and not slowing down to receive. Receiving gifts, compliments, help and so forth were very hard for me. This is rooted in pride. The enemy would love for us to forfeit our blessings by us being too proud to receive them. God had to show me that I prayed for a husband who does these things and that if I didn’t let him do them, then he wouldn’t continue to do them. How many times have I missed a blessing because it made me feel less independent? I’ve learned the more independent you think that you are, the less dependent on God you are. When you try to take control of a situation, then it doesn’t leave room for God to guide you. We are to be dependent on God not man, but we must not let our past disappointments keep us from receiving from those God has placed around us.
Galatians 5:13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Ephesians 6:7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people
Ephesians 5:21 submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Submitting is just serving each other’s needs. It is letting someone else take charge and lead. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we will know who will take the lead when. You must surrender your independence to be free in the will of God for your life. When we serve each other as if we are serving Jesus, we are creating a window of blessing and honor. We must be able to pour out and receive. God has many good gifts He wants to bless us with and I want everything that He has to give! Father we thank you for our marriages. We give thanks for the gifts and the purpose that you have put inside our spouses. Help us recognize those gifts and place honor on them. Help us not be afraid of losing control because we know that you have our best interests in mind continuously. Show us how to submit and serve one another with the love of God as we are submitting and serving You. Forgive us for times we have been controlling and prideful, rejecting the very gifts you have sent to bless us. Help us be gentle and kind. Let us show the same grace and mercy towards our spouse as you have shown us in Jesus’ name We pray. Amen!
Galatians 5:13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Ephesians 6:7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people
Ephesians 5:21 submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Submitting is just serving each other’s needs. It is letting someone else take charge and lead. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we will know who will take the lead when. You must surrender your independence to be free in the will of God for your life. When we serve each other as if we are serving Jesus, we are creating a window of blessing and honor. We must be able to pour out and receive. God has many good gifts He wants to bless us with and I want everything that He has to give! Father we thank you for our marriages. We give thanks for the gifts and the purpose that you have put inside our spouses. Help us recognize those gifts and place honor on them. Help us not be afraid of losing control because we know that you have our best interests in mind continuously. Show us how to submit and serve one another with the love of God as we are submitting and serving You. Forgive us for times we have been controlling and prideful, rejecting the very gifts you have sent to bless us. Help us be gentle and kind. Let us show the same grace and mercy towards our spouse as you have shown us in Jesus’ name We pray. Amen!