1 Corinthians 7:34-35 (NKJV)
34 There is[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.
When I was single I use to do all kinds of “crazy (to the world)” things because the Holy Spirit led me. I have given away expensive jewelry, gave EVERYTHING that I had in offering, picked people up off the street, etc. By no means am I boasting, but being married limits how I’m being led. I can’t do something extreme without consulting my husband first, especially if it affects the entire household. I would be out of order if I didn’t give him a choice/chance to agree.
Amos 3:3 (NKJV)
3 Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
I would be giving the enemy a foothold to come against our unity. This frustrated me in the beginning, but what I have found is that if God is telling me to do it, then He is already working on the heart of my husband and vice versa. We both love God and want our steps to be ordered by Him. In Genesis God said it was not good for man to be alone so He gave Adam a wife. God designed us to help one another, balance each other, and have accountability. We can encourage each other and also help adjust each other when things are off. Annoying habits and personality quirks are only an issue when something else is off balance. I only hear my husband chew when I am frustrated with something else (my issue not his, lol)! It is important to not let the little foxes spoil the vine (Song Of Solomon 2:15). The little things usually only build up if there is a bigger issue at root. My husband works a lot and I am always home with the kids. This is our season and we both agreed to it, but if we don’t sometimes take a break for ourselves and with each other, everything else becomes aggravating. When God sends a husband, the way he puts the toilet paper on the roll isn’t going to bother you until you are mad about something else! He is going to love you like Christ loves the church and all that petty stuff will be invisible. If God has called you to be married then He has called your marriage to be good! He isn’t going to send you someone who will keep you from your purpose or cause you to be bitter. God takes pleasure in prospering all the areas of your life. So to the unmarried I say “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Don’t let petty concerns keep God from blessing you with a spouse if you desire to be married. Let God start preparing you now. Let him show you areas that He wants to polish. Let Him renew your mind and calibrate your heart to receive your king! To the married I also say “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. If the “little” things are frustrating you, then step back and evaluate the bigger issue. Take time to break to receive refreshing. MAKE time to reconnect from the busyness to affirm each other’s love and respect for one another. Marriage is good! Don’t let the circumstances of one season define the climate for the rest of your lives! Push past the now and see the bigger picture. God has purpose and greatness for your marriage. It’s time to reboot and reactivate your passion.
Father we thank you that you give us the desires of our heart when we delight ourselves in You. Whether we are now single or married, we desire strong, healthy marriages that walk in agreement and give You glory. Forgive us for making a big deal about nothing without addressing the real issues. Help us carve out time to reconnect with each other and with ourselves before You. Make us whole and prepare us for the greatness that You have called us to. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!