Psalm 4:4 NKJV
Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah
I know for me, I like things done a certain way. I like things in systems and in order. When the order is breached, I “feel” like you are purposely trying to make me angry. I know that this isn’t the case, but I “feel” like because you know I like things a certain way, if you don’t do it that way, you are purposely trying to set me off. (Help me Jesus!) I know my way isn’t the only right way, I just “feel” better when my system is in place. In this case my “feelings” are irrational and I must submit them to God. If a task is being completed and the end result is accomplished, then I shouldn’t let the process bring me to anger.
Proverbs 14:29 KJV
He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
Proverbs 14:29 MSG
Slowness to anger makes for deep understanding; a quick-tempered person stockpiles stupidity.
Proverbs 14:29 NLT
People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness
Love is slow to anger. When we seek God’s understanding, he will help us choose to not get angry so quickly. When we anger quickly the bible says we are being foolish and stupid. When we respond to small situations with anger, it opens up a door for the enemy to come in and cause division in the big things. Our homes need to be united by the bond of peace and rooted and grounded in love. Our emotions shouldn’t set the atmosphere around us. The fruit of the spirit should establish our responses. When we choose to use our fruit, we are being a light for the world and living acceptable to the Lord.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the Spirit[a] is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), 10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord.
So the next time you “feel” yourself responding quickly to a situation, search your heart for your fruit and ask God to show you how to use it! I will definitely be working on this myself.
Father, we thank you that You are slow to anger because You love us. Thank You for Your word that is a light to our path. Give us deep understanding and forgive us for being right in our own eyes, foolish, and even stupid. Keep us in Your light and show us how to use the fruit that You have given us. Help us not to sin in our anger but to search Your word for the truth. We declare that we have the mind of Christ and we rule over our emotions. Our emotions do not control us. Help us walk in unity with our spouses by the bond of peace. Continue to grow and prosper our marriage as we continue to seek Your will. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!