Children are a blessing. They train us to be leaders. We are managers of our home and must learn to create an environment where different personalities and giftings can get along as a team. God ‘s grace will cover us as long as we remain humble and remember that each mistake holds value.
6 But He gives more grace. Therefore He says:
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”
I think of mistakes as compost. Compost is a mixture of various decaying organic substances, as dead leaves or manure, used for fertilizing soil. I remember growing up my dad had a compost bin. We would put banana peels, egg shells, and other “garbage” in it. He would wait until it decomposed then put it in his garden. He would grow the most beautiful, large vegetables. The harvest would be so plentiful that he would have to continuously give to the neighbors not to waste his crop.
Romans 8:28 (NKJV)
28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
When we (or our children) experience times that seem to produce garbage, we have to remember to use what we can to fertilize the garden of our hearts for growth. We have to know that God will work it out because we love Him and are called for His purpose. Our mistakes should produce organic fruit that is abundant and beautiful. Fruit that will grow abundantly and be plentiful to share with others. Our mistakes should detour us off the wrong path and onto the road that leads to our purpose. They should point us into a new direction and teach us what not to do next time. If we focus on the negative, we can get stuck and create a cycle that is hard to break from. When reprimanding our children for their mistakes, we have to teach them the seriousness of consequences of bad choices while redirecting them into a productive solution. If we shame them and don’t provide help in problem solving, they will be more likely to fall into a trap of feeling unworthy. This will lead to more bad choices because they will feel a defeat that won’t allow them to expect more and experience victory. We as parents also can’t let others shame our mistakes. We are all on different journeys. No one knows or can understand our heart condition and “why” things are except for our Father in Heaven. We need His Word as a guide to navigate our path and to clean and purify our hearts.
Psalm 119:105 (NKJV)
105 Your word is a lamp to my feet
And a light to my path.
The method that I use may not work for you, but the principle behind it will as long as it is based on God’s Word. Our process will look different but the end result should always point to Jesus! If we diligently seek God for guidance, He will surely reward us with answers.
But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
I’d like to encourage you today to remember that you were chosen by God to Parent your babies. He found you well equipped and able to successfully raise them into who He has called them to be. Learn from every mistake and use it to fertilize and grow your purpose. Your babies need you and your unconditional love even when it seems like they have distanced themselves from your wisdom. Continue to pray and trust that God is working it all out.
Father, we thank You that Your grace and mercy abounds towards us. Thank You for trusting us with the children that You have given us. Forgive us for not feeling equipped or able to successfully raise them up. Teach us how to manage our homes and each child according to their own abilities. Show us how to use every mistake made as an opportunity to grow and mature into something more beautiful. Help us be humble and not let others shape how we view our situations. Let us only look to You to measure our growth and success. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!