22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
To have a successful marriage we must be selfless. We have joined together as one and everything that we do sets a tone in our home. Many times marriages suffer because of the desire of wanting “me time”. This is important sometimes for sanity’s sake, but we have to plan this carefully with our spouse and consider their needs as well. Everyone needs to detox sometimes. It is important that we don’t place our role in our homes as more significant than the other.
In my home, my husband is the bread winner. He works extremely long hours. He often works overtime including his days off. His work ethic is honorable and praiseworthy. I understand his desire for a “break”. Well, if he is at work that often, guess who cooks, cleans, and manages the house? Did I mention that I also have 2 teenagers, 3 toddlers, and one about 6 months in process? Trust me, he understands my desire for a break as well. I am very blessed that he places high honor for my role at home and understands that it’s just as hard, although different, from his.
Needless to say, he doesn’t just go and plan a golf outing the minute that he gets some free time. I don’t just run out the house to get away from it all the minute he walks through the door. These events are well planned and considerately thought out. My husband even calls me when he unexpectedly gets stuck at work or asks if I mind if he stays late. Having said all of that reminds me that it is also much needed to carve out “couple time” to reconnect and stay in unity.
The trials of the day can have us both screaming “Calgon take me away”, lol. The truth of the matter is, that no amount of “me time” will take away our responsibilities and frustrations. The only time that can fix our issues is time spent with Jesus!
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
When we connect ourselves to Jesus, our souls find rest. All that fleshy frustration dissipates, our anxieties disappear, and our attitudes change. Once we’ve done that, then we can make plans for our girl’s night out or sports outing with the guys. Fellowship and laughter are good for us.
22 A merry heart does good, like medicine,[a]
But a broken spirit dries the bones.
9 Ointment and perfume delight the heart,
And the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel.
Being around our friends keeps our bones from rotting. Pampering ourselves delights our heart. We don’t want to be so consumed with life that we forsake these times. There is a time for everything, but in everything we must be strategic. There might be seasons where there seems to be no break (I’m in one right now), but we can’t let are attitudes take on bitterness and selfishness thinking about what we might be missing. The kids only stay little for a short season and then they are gone. We must learn to enjoy every season of our lives. We have to be selfless to our God given assignments and stop complaining about what we can’t have or do.
I want to encourage you today that you are in the season that God ordained for you. You too will soon get a time for rest, a time to be pampered, and a time to fulfill your desires. Just remember that You are not your own anyway. You belong to Jesus. You also belong to your spouse, but if you delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). A time for fulfilment is coming. A time for abundance is coming. Everything that you endure now is preparing your character to handle your next. The journey is ongoing and Jesus the ultimate example of selflessness is with you!
Father, we thank You that You have given us Jesus as a selfless act of love. Forgive us for not always reflecting this in our lives. Help us be more considerate, patient, and enduring. Give us strategy on how to carve out time for all the things that we need to function properly. Help us be thankful and satisfied in every season. Help us to honor the role of our spouse and consider all things when planning to “get away”. We take on Your yoke and find rest for our souls. We give You our frustrations and anxieties. We want to be selfless. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!