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Is Your Husband An Idol

6/26/2015

Exodus 20:3 “You shall have no other gods before Me.

Often times, it is easy to create idols in our heart. The word gods is defined as an idol. An idol is anything you put in greater reverence or more importance/significance than God. Ladies we have to be very careful that we don’t place our husbands in this role. When I first got married, I was super excited to finally have a husband who honored and trusted God. He loved me and also loved my two girls from my previous marriage. Probably rooted in fear because my last marriage failed, I was overly zealous to serve my husband. Don’t get me wrong. Our husbands deserve honor, respect, love, and service, but he does not come as a replacement to God. I wanted so bad to please him, that I was afraid to make any mistakes. I didn’t want conflict. I didn’t want him to feel like I was trying to trump his authority. I was concerned with his approval more than I was of God’s. I didn’t do this on purpose. It took root in my heart from the fear of losing him. He never required any of this extra that I was doing. I was trying to be the wife that I thought he wanted me to be instead of the wife that God called me to be. He was not God. He could not answer my prayers and didn’t have a solution to every situation. Once The frustration in my spirit grew and my expectations of my husband and myself were unrealistic. I unknowingly, made him an idol in my heart. Once I got this revelation, I repented. I asked God to show me who He wanted me to be as a wife and allowed Him to change my patterns. This brought peace to my spirit and peace to our relationship. None of us are perfect. We can only submit ourselves to God and pray that He perfects us as we keep Him first on our journey.

Father, we thank you for our husbands. We thank You that they are good leaders of our homes. We place honor , blessing and respect on them. We thank You that You are the Lord of our marriage. That You alone are God in our home and in our heart. Forgive us for times that we have made our husbands or even our children idols that come before you. Show us how to be the wife that You have called us to be.

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We Each Have Our Part

6/19/2015

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As wives our actions hold great power. The Word tells us that without even speaking we can win even disobedient husbands over. Wow, that is a lot of power! Unfortunately many women do this by manipulation. They use sex, food, guilt or other fleshly things to lure their husbands into agreement. The bible says that manipulation is like witchcraft. It is unacceptable! It is what is in your heart that will draw him to you. Even if your outward beauty fades, the beauty of a gentle, quiet spirit can’t be destroyed or perverted. Self-control is one of the hardest fruits of the spirit to operate in. It is very easy to overreact on situations based on our emotions. It is okay to share our emotions, but we must learn to act them out in love and not add fuel to the fire by sinning because of our anger.

Psalm 4:4 Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah

I know first-hand that this is not easy. My mouth can easily get the best of me when I’m angry. I have also been very good at slamming cabinets and doors! We must realize when we are wrong, admit it, and ask for forgiveness. We must work on being still and seeking God how to handle our stresses. Gentleness is also a fruit of the spirit. It is easy when everything around us is good, but takes much effort when we are mad. That’s when self-control has to kick back in!

1 Peter 3 New King James Version (NKJV)

Submission to Husbands

3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

We all want happy marriages, but we need to each work on our part. The husband has to continually seek God to understand his wife. They must place honor on us. Know that we are weaker, and that our inheritance is together. When they don’t do these things, their prayers will be hindered! Wow, that is surely an important reason to honor your wife! Our husband’s prayers need to be heard.

A Word to Husbands

7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

We both have important jobs in making our marriages work. When we realize what each other’s gifts and abilities are, it makes it much easier to run our household’s effectively. Know your role and operate in what you do best. Honor your spouse for their ability and do your own part like you are doing it for the Lord. Every household is different. We all have different gifts. Don’t model your house after your neighbor’s, but understand what God has for yours.

Father, we thank You for giving us the fruit we need to become the people You desire us to be. Help us live in constant awareness of our actions, so that we can use our gentleness and self-control. Let honor and understanding be our portion. Show us our strengths and the strengths of our spouse. Help us run our households with the abilities that you have given us instead of comparing our homes to others. Help our covenant be strong in your word, seeking You first with disagreements. We thank You that You always know what’s best and Your merciful towards us when we get it wrong. Forgive us for behaving badly, and help us forgive our spouses when they wrong us. Our marriage is a ministry and a covenant that is everlasting and will not be easily broken because You are in the midst. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!

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Build My House

6/12/2015

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When I was growing up, nothing was ever good enough for my parents. I could accomplish10 good things, but they would only acknowledge the1thing that I failed at. As a teenager, this behavior started to seriously affect my identity. I thought if they were going to accuse me of always doing wrong then why try to always do right. This was a direct attack against my identity and the devil was happy to tell me who I was. I’m not saying that I was not responsible for my own actions. I made choices that I only could be accountable for, but once the door for the enemy was open to tell me who I was, it was easy to be that person. As wives it is very important not to get caught up with all the wrong stuff that is going on around us. We need to focus on the blessing. How God is moving in our lives. I know this can be especially hard as a stay at home mom. I see the most foolish things go on daily with my children. Believe me, as a former preschool teacher, your children’s teacher is only reporting the most troublesome behaviors in the day. If you knew everything that went on, you would surely be troubled yourself! It is our job to correct them and help them do better. Love holds no records of wrongs. We need to give our husbands peace when they come home. Revealing the most important details and not bombarding them with all the small stuff. As wives, we need to build our homes with prayer. We also need to build our husband’s spirit with affirmation. If he doesn’t ever hear that he is doing a good job, he might think that he’s not. If you’re always accusing him of doing wrong, he might start entertaining the voice of the enemy that says “you might as well do what she is accusing you of”. Again, he is responsible for his actions, but there are things that push people into the hands of the enemy and make it harder to make right decisions. Being married is not always easy. It takes hard work. Sometimes we may not feel like it, but we need to get past our feelings and press to be our best and honor the covenant that we made before God. Speak words of life to your husband. Your very words can build him into the man he is supposed to be!

Proverbs 14:1 EVERY WISE woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

Your negative words can tear him down, therefore tearing down your house. Be wise and build your house with love, mercy, prayers, forgiveness, and positive words.

Father, we come in the name of Jesus repenting for tearing down our homes with our own hands. Help us watch what we say and how we respond to the situations we face. Give us the wisdom we need to build our homes. Show us what our husbands need that we aren’t giving them. Help us focus on the blessing and not fall into the snares of the enemy and entertaining his voice. Soften our husband’s heart and make him sensitive to our needs also. Give us strategy to keep peace in our homes and grow deeper in relationship with You and with each other. We honor our covenant and want it to give You glory. Bless our homes. Keep us strong. Make us whole. Repair any breaches and teach us how to forgive without holding records of wrongs. In Jesus name we pray. Amen!

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Don't Be A Fool

6/5/2015

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Every marriage has ups and downs, ins and outs. I’m sure most of you have heard the saying, it’s not what you go through, it’s how you go through it. It’s important that through our trials we continue to honor and respect the covenant that we made before God. I know the first thing in our flesh to do is to rant and rave, complain, and then call the friend that will listen and tell us we are right. Although that may feel good at the time and make us feel righteous, it will only put fuel on the fire at hand. Of course, the first thing we should do is pray. We should ask God to show us ourselves in the situation. Is there anything in me that is making me overreact or be irrational in this situation? Then, pray for your spouse that the eyes of their understanding be enlightened to what they aren’t seeing. You are not always right! If you think you are then you are a fool.

Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.

Sometimes we do need to go to a friend for advice. The bible tells us to do this, but it’s important to have a friend that will give us wise counsel according to the word of God. A friend that will speak the truth in love and not afraid to tell us when we are wrong. They also won’t judge your spouse wrongly, they will pray for you and for your marriage to be strengthened and free from strife. Anyone who is causing confusion and anger to rise, they are not the one you should be seeking.

Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful

It is important not to be prideful in our marriages. Sometimes we all need help. It is ideal to receive counsel together from another trusted couple that can impart wisdom from experience as well as the word of God.

Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

Proverbs 11:14 Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.

Protect your marriage. Evaluate yourself. Evaluate your friends. Seek counsel. Covenant is honored and respected by God. It is a precious treasure that we should handle with care. We wouldn’t let our most careless friend borrow our most valuable piece of jewelry. So we shouldn’t let our most hurt, bitter friend counsel us in our marriage.

Father, we come to You in the name of Jesus thanking You for our marriage and asking You to bless it. Help us to seek You first in all of our trials and not satisfy our flesh with wicked counsel. Give of divine connections of counselors that can help build our marriage and strengthen itet g according to Your word. Take away any pride and self-righteousness that keeps us from reconciliation and agreement with our spouse. Make our hearts tender and passionate for our marriages. Helpus honor our covenant and not give up so easily. Take away any hurt, bitterness, and broken heartedness from the past and help us start new by seeking You first. Forgive us where we have been stubborn and stiff-necked. Deal with us as You deal with our Spouse. Make our Marriage whole. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!

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Is Your Husband An Idol

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