What's Wrong With Them?

In a moment of frustration with my children, I cried out to God for deliverance.  Lord, why do my children act this way?  I’ve prayed, I’ve come against generational curses, I’ve declared the Word of the Lord over them, but they still talk back, don’t listen the first time, do things the “wrong way”, argue with each other, etc.   I started to think about how I acted as a child.  I was terrible. I always got in trouble by talking too much.  I questioned everything and was very stubborn and bossy!  I wasn’t raised in church, I didn’t know any better. My kids know better so they should do better, right?  Well, when you ask God, He is sure to answer.  I’ve been focusing on trying to break the curse instead of trying to mold the personality trait.  God made us all a certain way for a reason.  We are all called to different people, places, and situations. Our assignments are unique, and God didn’t make any mistakes creating us. It’s the enemy’s job to steal, kill, and destroy.  He comes into our homes and tries to steal our identities, kill our dreams, and destroy our relationships.   He frustrates us with “wrong” behavior so that we are not only distracted from our own assignments, but we also break our children’s spirit trying to change them.  God has shown me that wherever the attack is, usually is where the gift/blessing is.  So, as parents, it is our jobs to dig deeper.  We need to pray and ask God to show us the gift and why the enemy is trying to attack it.  For instance, me talking too much as a child was actually my gift of being relational and being able to talk to almost anybody, leaving much room for counsel and ministry. Even as a child, children and adults would come and give me way too much information and look for my opinion.  I am very analytical and questioned everything. I have to always dig to make sure I know everything there is to know about a topic. This could be dangerous and cause me not to walk in faith and talk myself out of blessings, (The enemy would love to see this happen).  God has revealed to me that this is a gift that is especially useful in prayers of warfare, healing, and deliverance.  God will show me every angle the enemy would come from so that I can pray against those things and get to the root of the issue causing problems.  I do realize the things are only revealed by the Holy Spirit, but the desire to dig deeper is engrained in me. Being stubborn is a sign of being strong in your convictions.  Being bossy is showing signs of leadership.  Children don’t know how to manage all of these gifts that God has given them. As parents, we must identify how the thing that frustrates us the most can be used for the benefit of our children and their futures.  Of course, we don’t allow them to be disrespectful.  We have to train and correct them.  We have to guide them in love and be careful not to suppress the very thing inside of them that can change the world! God created them from a seed that came from you and trusts you to help them grow into the people He intended. Help us Jesus! Pray.  Pray.  Pray.

Psalms 139:13-14  For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb.  I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

 

Father, we thank you for every gift that you have placed inside our children.  Help us not to be frustrated, but to discern the attacks of the enemy.  Show us how to mold their gifts and give them tools to use them wisely. We come against every attack that would try to steal their identities and cause confusion in our homes.  Make us wise stewards over our children and invest the time and resources that is needed to help them be their best.  Forgive us for being harsh and inflexible, believing that there is only one right way.  Create unity in the spirit by the bond of peace in our homes and help us always actin love.  In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen!